So, allow me to take a minute to reflect upon where I’ve been, as to where I am.
Prior to this October, I hadn’t officially “dated” in over 2 years, and I haven’t been in a long term relationship in literally a decade.
Why? Am I weird? Crazy? Have daddy issues and a penchant for the pole and meth?
No. I was in the military. What I found was that it was really hard to maintain a relationship while worried about deploying to some third world country where you might not come home with your balls in tact. In addition to that, I didn’t adopt anything close to a true relationship mindset.
*** I apologize to any and all women that I dated prior to 2005, and probably you few I dated up to 2007 or so. I was a douchebag. I wasn’t out to do anything evil, or to hurt feelings, but I wasn’t in the proper headspace for a long term relationship, and I probably should’ve been locked off in some cave incorporating the random hooker into my daily existence. ***
and then after my Afghanistan deployment, I was hell-bent to finish school and find a job. Once I found said job, it took me 3,000+ miles from everything I was familiar with into a new world. From there, I kept a strong anchor to my known world by spending 3 months of the year in Chicago. It was a lot of craziness.
Now, for the first time in a long time, I feel normal. I feel like a relationship is totally doable, and so here I am…and that’s what brought me to the Hershey Date.
Lauren is a woman I talked to a few times on match.com it seemed on and off. We’d exchange emails for a few days, and then I wouldn’t hear from her for a few days, wash, and repeat.
But she seemed interesting. Works in the medical field. Seemed very intelligent, and so I was excited when we finally nailed down a time to meet. I suggested the Hershey Company in downtown Chicago. With the recent snow we got, what could be better than some hot cocoa and a sweet treat, right?
So, after some juggling over the time, we set a time that worked for both of us, and before I knew it, I was strolling into the Hershey store. She was already there, and I smoothly slided up next to her and asked “Is this seat taken?”
First impression: I was pleasantly surprised at how cute she was. Even cuter than her Match profile pictures, of which there were only 2. She is well-traveled, and has a very engaging personality. We easily conversed, and established what I thought was a very easy and pleasant rapport.
One thing I will say about dating in general is that it has been nice to be in pleasant company with people outside of the norm, and getting to know them, I am such a people person.
So we grabbed cocoa, and I asked her if she was interested in sharing a dessert with me, which we worked together to choose. I chose the 3 finalist, and she chose the winner, which was a smore brownie!
So, we sat and chatted till about 10 minutes before closing time, at which point I walked her to the bus stop. We then stood there and chatted. While I wasn’t sure at all if there was any attraction from her end, I did end up feeling pleasantly about the date. We parted with a hug.
We spoke a day later, and she said that she would definitely like to get together again, so we have a date planned for this upcoming Saturday. We’re going to a conservatory to look at plants…that is what you do at conservatories right???