So I’m going to tell you a story. I’m not going to reveal the name of the person whom relayed the story to me, but I will reveal the name of the establishment where the event happened. The story is being recounted from text messages, exchanged on this past Sunday morning.
And the story starts with a Youtube video…well, actually it was a Facebook video, that I shared. Here is the clip however; it should start at the 1-minute mark:
At about noon on Sunday morning, I got a Facebook message from a friend, which I will recount here:
Friend: the video you posted… could have used you the other night
I was at a bar with 2 friends and guys were dropping “n-bombs, s-bombs, etc” left and right
my friend who has a black son, was like lets just go, i’m like no
i went up told these dudes to shut the fuck up
and then took a 3 on 1 beating
at a bar call rabbitsMe: Oh man. I’m so sorry to hear it.Friend: these were old dudes but the size of (name redacted. Now the mutual acquaintance he mentions is by far twice my friends size, who is in the 5’6″ 140lb. range at best)i actually walked out with only a few scrapestotally finebut man its hard to believe today that people talk like thatand no one says shitMe: Oh nice, well I’m very happy to hear that.Oh, I’m not surprisedFriend: yeah, I mean I think the bartender is part hispanicbut that video you posted hit home, except the crew I had were not able to defend themselves what so everMe: Yeah. I’ always aware of that when I’m out and aboutFriend: yeah, I proably should have been a little more aware of thatMe: Ha ha ha…the things we learnFriend: but thought someone else there would have backed meMe: Yeah, for sureFriend: but there was really hardly anyone else thereand then there was the cops that showed upa whole other storythese assholes told them it was a political conversationMe: Helpful at all?Friend: oh fuck noMe: Also not surprisedFriend:the dude in charge was probably an old racist piece of shit tooi didn’t press charges because I don’t want those dudes to know where I liveMe: YeahFriend: funny its like one step forward 2 steps backMe: True, so true. We live in Trump countryFriend: yeah, exactlyfucking sucksthere were a few african american cops that showed up, but they sent them awaythe main cop didand is like I got thisMe: Of course he didFriend: not that i’m surprised by itjust so fucking irritatingMe: Oh yeah. Well thank you for taking a stand at least. I’m glad you weren’t hurtFriend: yeah, i didnt do muchhahai didnt even get a punch it inMe: Mind if I share the gist of your story on my social media?Friend: they had my hands behind my backMe: Just saying something was a lot.
I’ll share anonymously, but will share the name of the barFriend: surethe bar owner who wasn’t there apologizedMe: Oh cool. At least he did that much.Friend: yeah, he is looking to 86 those guysill let you knowMe: Please doFriend: anyway, i saw your video and that hit homein a different wayMe: Yeah.Friend:if you want to change this neighborhoodyou got to let those fucks know that is not acceptableMe: Exactly!Friend: anyway, keep up the good fightMe: Thank you brother, and thanks for being brave.Friend: no need to thank me, it was a wake up call to see that things aren’t so differentMe: Yeah
So many thoughts go through my head at recounting that exchange, I don’t even really know where to begin. But, I will start with a simple question:
What would you have done in that situation?
And sometimes I sit and reflect…people try to tell me about their racist uncle, and how he spews his hateful diatribes at the dinner table…”but I keep my mouth shut because I don’t want to start a fight.”
And I don’t have the luxury to choose to be an “ally in the struggle” when it suits me. If I’m faced with a racist, I don’t have the luxury to take my skin off and blend in.
I wear me, 24/7….365. This never comes off. Nor would I ever want it to. I am who I am, fully, and wonderfully.
Yeah Jake, I hate Illinois Nazis too.
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I hate this computer.